How does tipping work at BYOB swingers clubs, locker counters, and valet stands?
Even when club admission is paid in advance, bring small cash bills tucked inside a locker pouch: tip BYOB bartenders per pour or upfront when checking bottles, tip locker and towel attendants who refresh linens, and keep gratuities discreet without flashing wallets on the floor.
Many private lifestyle clubs operate on a bring-your-own-bottle (BYOB) model where your admission or membership fee covers the door, ice, cups, and basic mixers, while bartenders tag your sealed bottle and pour drinks throughout the night. Because there is no bar tab to sign at midnight, guests who arrive cashless inadvertently stiff the staff keeping the bar running.
Experienced couples bring crisp singles, fives, and tens specifically for hospitality staff. At a BYOB bar, you can either tip a couple of dollars each time a bartender mixes a drink or hand an upfront cash gratuity when checking your bottles at the start of the evening and top up if your group orders frequent rounds.
Don't overlook locker-room, towel, and room attendants — the behind-the-scenes staff who hand out fresh towels, sanitize rooms between guests, and keep amenities stocked all night. Dropping a thoughtful cash tip at the towel or locker counter on your way out, alongside standard valet gratuities outside, is deeply appreciated.
To keep logistics effortless once you change into evening clubwear or wraps, leave full wallets and credit cards locked safely inside your assigned locker or vehicle lockbox and carry just your locker key and folded tip bills in a small wrist pouch or pocket. Review /guides/lifestyle-event-etiquette and check each venue's own rules via /clubs before heading out.