Events & Etiquette
What happens at a hotel takeover or lifestyle resort weekend?
A hotel takeover is a lifestyle event where an organiser books a hotel's rooms and common areas for an exclusively lifestyle-friendly weekend. Guests are all vetted members, the pool and common areas are used freely, and private room activity stays private. Resort weekends at dedicated lifestyle properties work similarly.
Hotel takeovers are one of the most popular event formats in the lifestyle community because they combine the comfort of a hotel stay with a fully private social environment. The organiser books a block of rooms and coordinates with the hotel to ensure that non-lifestyle guests are not on the same floor or in the shared amenity spaces.
The social structure of a takeover weekend usually looks like this: Thursday or Friday evening check-in, a welcoming social in the pool or common area, organized evening events each night (a themed party, a mixer, a hosted dinner), and unstructured socialising in between. Most takeovers run Friday to Sunday.
The pool and hot tub areas at takeovers are typically clothing-optional during designated hours, which is one of the key draws. The daytime atmosphere is relaxed and social — think resort vacation with people who share your interests.
Dedicated lifestyle resorts like Hedonism II in Jamaica or Desire in Mexico operate on a similar model year-round. They cater exclusively to adults who have booked with full knowledge of the resort's clothing-optional and adult-social culture. These resorts have their own dress codes, common area rules, and etiquette norms that are explained during check-in.
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