What does Vanilla mean?
Vanilla is the informal term for conventional, monogamous relationships and individuals outside the Lifestyle community — used descriptively, not critically, to distinguish the two social worlds.
Vanilla is community shorthand for mainstream monogamous settings or relationships. It can be descriptive, but it should not be used as a judgment about people who choose different boundaries.
The term also appears in logistical contexts. A 'vanilla' hotel is a general-audience property where Lifestyle-specific conduct may violate rules or other guests' expectations. Privacy and consent still apply in every setting.
JoinTheSwing is designed with private profiles and consent-gated Messages. Its home-screen icon is a gold disc mark with no wordmark, but install naming and presentation depend on the device and browser, so users should review the prompt before adding it to a home screen.
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New member registration, when available, will be on the website and in the native apps; digital membership purchases take place in the native apps via StoreKit 2 and Google Play Billing. Existing members can continue using the website. At launch, member identity verification will run through an automated government ID, biometric face-match and liveness check by Veriff: from the current Veriff check JoinTheSwing never receives or stores the images — we retain the verification result, Veriff's session reference, a consent receipt and non-biometric review metadata. Members who verified through our earlier, retired in-house pass may still have ID, selfie or couple photos in our private verification-document storage, deleted when the account is deleted. The free launch list does not create an account, start a subscription or charge a card.
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