Club etiquette guide — 2026
Last updated October 2026 · Written by JoinTheSwing Editorial
Swingers club dress codes: what 16 clubs actually say.
Most of the 16 clubs we checked ask guests to dress up for a night out: smart-casual or better for men, club wear or lingerie for women, and no sportswear, sweats, beachwear, flip-flops or ball caps. A few are relaxed, and themes can change the rule, so read the venue’s own page.
Types of dress code
What a swingers club dress code usually means.
A dress code is the club’s own rule, and it comes in four recognisable forms. The table groups the 16 clubs below by the form their own page uses; several fit more than one.
| Code type | How clubs word it | What it means in practice | Clubs in this guide |
|---|---|---|---|
| Dress to impress | “Upscale restaurant or nightclub”, “dress to impress”, “stylish and sexy” | Going-out clothes a step above a casual bar. The usual benchmark is a nice restaurant or a night out. | Colette, Power Exchange, The Green Door, Scarlet Ranch, The Korral, Club Sapphire, Club Sinz (no imposed code; urges dress to impress) |
| Detailed lists | Written lists of what is required and what is not permitted; some clubs call theirs strict | Read the list item by item: collared shirts, dress shoes, heels, banned hats and sportswear. Entry decisions rest with the club. | Trapeze, CheckMate NYC, Tabu, Club Joi, Hidden Agenda |
| Relaxed | “Casual attire is acceptable”, “nice casual”, “jeans, shorts, and shirts with collars” | Clean, comfortable casual clothes are the stated norm. Ohana’s still rules out dirty or torn clothing. | Swinging Atlanta, Club Eden, Ohana’s Social Club |
| Themed night | “Dress in theme”, “unless otherwise specified for themed or specialty events” | The event page can replace the usual rule. A theme costume can stand in for a collared shirt, or a few formal nights can raise the bar. | Tabu, The Korral, Caligula, Scarlet Ranch, Colette, Ohana’s Social Club |
Two clarifications. A dress code governs what you wear in the door, and the club’s other rules govern the rest of the evening. And your outfit is never an invitation: a no is still a no whatever anyone is wearing. For a shorter answer aimed at first-timers, see what to wear to a lifestyle club and what to wear to a swingers party.
Clothing-optional venues and resorts work differently: the rule there is about where clothing is expected, not about dressing up. That is covered in the clothing-optional resorts guide.
Club-by-club index
What each club says on its own page.
Sixteen clubs, each restated from its own published dress rule and checked on 23 October 2026. Dress codes change, so confirm the current wording before you go. A listing here is not a statement that a club is open on any given night.
- New Orleans (Colette brand)
Colette New Orleans
Asks guests to “dress as though you were going out to an upscale restaurant or nightclub”, sexy and to impress. Beach attire is not allowed for ladies; for gentlemen it rules out work jeans, sports shoes, flip flops, jerseys, baggy shirts, shorts and ball caps. Single men need a collared shirt, slacks or nice jeans and dress shoes, and the page says it is “very strict about this policy”. We opened the New Orleans page; confirm other Colette locations on their own pages (Colette (opens in a new tab), checked 2026-10-23).
- San Francisco
Power Exchange
Uses the same upscale restaurant or nightclub standard and welcomes “fetish, leather, and gothic wear”. Single men “must be dressed to impress”, with a collared shirt, slacks or nice jeans and nice shoes. Prohibited: work jeans, shorts, sweats, sports and workout clothing, and flip flops, sandals or other beach attire (Power Exchange (opens in a new tab), checked 2026-10-23).
- Fort Lauderdale
Trapeze
Its Fort Lauderdale page says “the dress code is strictly enforced” (Trapeze Fort Lauderdale (opens in a new tab), checked 2026-10-23). On the code page, women: “SEXY CLUB WEAR”, with no pajamas, beachwear or beach sandals. Men: collared shirts required and dress shoes, with no t-shirts, tank tops, shorts, hats, sweatpants, flip flops, ripped jeans, sports attire or backpacks. High heels are not allowed in the back room area (Trapeze dress code (opens in a new tab), checked 2026-10-23).
- Denver
Scarlet Ranch
“You should always dress to impress”, typically business casual for men and daring sexy for women, with fetish wear encouraged. Not allowed: “old jeans, logo t-shirts, ball caps or gang wear”. A few themes require attire suitable for a formal event; most themes are optional (Scarlet Ranch FAQ (opens in a new tab), checked 2026-10-23).
- Las Vegas
The Green Door
A “dress to impress” code: stylish and sexy, with jeans and tennis shoes allowed. Single men are told no open-toed shoes, sandals, slides or slippers, no athletic wear, joggers, sweatpants or basketball shorts, and no sleeveless shirts or jerseys (Green Door FAQ (opens in a new tab), checked 2026-10-23).
- Los Angeles
Club Joi
Men need “at least a collared shirt”, with no t-shirts, shorts, sandals, baseball caps, sports attire or ripped clothing. For women, “Ladies don't really have a dress code”, and the page says lockers can be used to change as often as you like (Club Joi (opens in a new tab), checked 2026-10-23).
- New York
CheckMate NYC
The most formal code in this index: a “glamorous dress code”. Men: suits, dress shirts, dress pants and dress shoes. Women: high heels, and the page says that without them you will be denied entry. Not permitted: beachwear, sportswear including athletic sneakers, flip flops, sliders, hats and caps, hoodies and urban wear. Entry is at the management’s discretion (CheckMate NYC (opens in a new tab), checked 2026-10-23).
- New York
Caligula New York
Aims for “a sexy yet relaxed atmosphere”, with guests “clean, neat, and well-groomed”. Not permitted: high-top sneakers, work boots, sweats or running suits, and baseball caps, bandanas or doo-rags. The code applies “unless otherwise specified for themed or specialty events”, and it names toga, bikini or beach parties and Halloween as examples (Caligula FAQ (opens in a new tab), checked 2026-10-23).
- Detroit
Hidden Agenda
Attire should be “stylish, well-groomed, and appropriate for an upscale, speakeasy inspired environment”. Men: no sneakers, flip-flops or casual sandals, no large logos or slogans and no ball caps. Women are encouraged to wear dresses, skirts or tailored pants, and lingerie-inspired pieces are acceptable if worn in a refined way and in designated areas. Management may deny entry (Hidden Agenda (opens in a new tab), checked 2026-10-23).
- Baltimore and the DC area
Tabu
“Men are REQUIRED to either Wear a Collared Shirt Year-Round or DRESS Sweater in winter months”, and the page says “Shorts are fine in the summer”. The one exception is being dressed in the theme for the evening (Tabu (opens in a new tab), checked 2026-10-23).
- Pennsylvania
The Korral
“All Korral events require you to dress to impress!” Men wear a collared shirt, plain t-shirt or button-up with dress pants or clean jeans; women wear something sexy. Banned: slogan or logo t-shirts, sweatpants, tracksuits, athletic or basketball shorts and uniforms. Dress or khaki shorts are acceptable from Memorial Day to Labor Day, and exceptions are allowed if part of the night’s theme (The Korral (opens in a new tab), checked 2026-10-23).
- Seattle
Club Sapphire
Encourages “dressing up as if you are going out for a night on the town” and self-expression, “whether it’s sexy attire, lingerie or costume clothing”. Designer jeans, t-shirts, stilettos and pumps are named as fine. The list of nos is short: baggy sweats, dirty clothing, casual wear and baseball hats (Club Sapphire (opens in a new tab), checked 2026-10-23).
- Boston
Club Sinz
“We do not impose a dress code. However you will feel undressed in street clothes.” Ladies generally come in clubwear or a dress, and gentlemen in dress slacks or Dockers with a polo or club shirt; its two rules are to dress to impress and have a little fun (Club Sinz FAQ (opens in a new tab), checked 2026-10-23).
- Dallas–Fort Worth and Oklahoma City
Club Eden
The operator’s FAQ says women may dress as sexy as they like and asks men to be dressed “nice casual” (Club Eden FAQ (opens in a new tab), checked 2026-10-23).
- Ohio
Ohana’s Social Club
Relaxed: “Jeans, shorts, and shirts with collars are acceptable.” Dirty, stained or torn clothing is not permitted, and it asks for no ratty t-shirts, baggy pants or sweats. It encourages dressing to the night’s theme, and women are welcome to bring several outfits (Ohana's (opens in a new tab), checked 2026-10-23).
- Atlanta
Swinging Atlanta
The group’s rules page says it does “NOT enforce a particular dress code” and that casual attire is acceptable. It is the most relaxed rule in this index (Swinging Atlanta (opens in a new tab), checked 2026-10-23).
Men, women, singles
Do the rules differ for men, women and single men?
- Single men
Colette, Power Exchange and The Green Door each print a separate single-men rule. At Colette and Power Exchange it is a collared shirt, slacks or nice jeans and dress shoes; at The Green Door it is a list of nos covering open-toed shoes, athletic wear and sleeveless shirts. Colette and Power Exchange both describe their policy as very strict.
- Men in general
Where a club sets a men’s rule it is nearly always about the top half and the shoes: Trapeze, Club Joi and Tabu require a collared shirt, CheckMate requires a dress shirt and dress shoes, and Hidden Agenda and Colette rule out sneakers or sports shoes.
- Women
Women’s guidance runs wider. Club Joi says “Ladies don't really have a dress code”, Power Exchange says anything from a semi-formal dress to a sexy outfit is fine, and Trapeze asks for sexy club wear. The two exceptions are shoes: CheckMate NYC requires high heels, while Trapeze bans them in its back room area.
- Couples and everyone else
Most of these rules are written in terms of men and women. If a club’s page does not say how its rule applies to you, ask the club before the night rather than at the door. Contact details are on each club’s own site.
Themed nights
How themed, fetish and costume nights change the rule.
- A theme can replace the rule
Tabu says “The only Exception is being Dressed in the THEME for the evening”, The Korral allows exceptions “if it is part of the theme for the night”, and Caligula’s code applies “unless otherwise specified for themed or specialty events”.
- A theme can raise the bar
Scarlet Ranch has “a few themes where you must wear attire suitable for the formal event”, though it says most themes are optional. Hidden Agenda asks guests to avoid “excessive costume-like attire” even on themed nights.
- A theme is often encouraged, not enforced
Ohana’s encourages everyone to dress according to theme, and Colette asks guests to “dress in theme when there is one”. Colette also says some women prefer lingerie. Treat a theme as the host’s invitation and read the event page for the night.
Fetish and leather styles are welcome at several clubs in the index: Colette and Power Exchange both say fetish, leather and gothic wear are always welcome, and Scarlet Ranch says fetish wear is encouraged. For ideas on interpreting a theme, see popular swinger party themes.
Shoes, bags, grooming
Footwear, bags and grooming: the practical details.
- Footwear
Shoes are the item clubs mention most. Flip flops, sandals, slides and athletic sneakers come up in the rules of Colette, Power Exchange, Trapeze, The Green Door (for single men), Club Joi and CheckMate; The Green Door allows tennis shoes for everyone else. Trapeze adds that high heels are not allowed in its back room area and asks guests to bring their own flip flops for use there. Wear shoes you can stand and dance in for several hours.
- Arriving and leaving
Colette asks that clothing be “street worthy while entering or leaving the club” and suggests a light coat, jacket or sarong. The Korral says it is fine to bring more comfortable shoes, sweats or a change of clothes for the way home.
- Bags and lockers
Trapeze lists backpacks and oversized bags among its men’s nos, and both Trapeze and Club Joi mention lockers. Keep what you carry small: ID, a card, your phone and any supplies you want. Scarlet Ranch says many guests bring lingerie or robes to change into as they become more comfortable.
- Grooming and hygiene
Few clubs spell out grooming, but Caligula asks that guests be “clean, neat, and well-groomed” and Hidden Agenda asks for “well-groomed” attire. As general advice, arrive freshly washed, keep fragrance light in a shared room and wear clean clothes.
What not to wear
What not to wear: the items clubs ban most.
Tallied from the 16 pages above, these are the items named most often. Sports and beach clothing lead the list; the exceptions are noted where a club makes one.
- Sportswear and sweats
Sports shoes, sweats, tracksuits or athletic wear are named in the rules of Colette, Power Exchange, Trapeze, The Green Door (for single men), Club Joi, CheckMate, Caligula, Hidden Agenda, The Korral, Club Sapphire and Ohana’s.
- Beachwear, flip flops and sandals
Named by Colette, Power Exchange, Trapeze, The Green Door (for single men), Club Joi, CheckMate and Hidden Agenda. Where a club makes an exception, it is usually for the theme or for shoes you change into.
- Hats and caps
Ball caps or hats are named by Colette, Trapeze, Scarlet Ranch, Club Joi, CheckMate, Caligula, Hidden Agenda and Club Sapphire. The Korral takes a different line: hats, head wraps and do-rags are allowed provided they are not ragged, torn or dirty.
- Shorts, with exceptions
Colette, Power Exchange, Trapeze, Club Joi and CheckMate (“NO SHORTS”) rule shorts out, and Hidden Agenda prohibits them “unless worn in theme”. Caligula goes the other way and lists “Dress jeans or shorts” as permitted. Tabu says shorts are fine in summer, The Korral allows dress or khaki shorts from Memorial Day to Labor Day, and Ohana’s lists shorts as acceptable.
- Dirty, torn or ripped clothing
Club Joi, Ohana’s and Club Sapphire name it outright, Trapeze rules out ripped jeans for men, and The Korral asks for jeans with no holes or excess distress. It is the one rule that shows up on both the strict and the relaxed lists.
Several clubs also state that entry is at their discretion. CheckMate NYC says any decision on entry is at the management’s discretion, Scarlet Ranch says management may refuse admittance for any reason, and Hidden Agenda and The Korral say management may deny entry for not following the code. Check your outfit against the page the day you go.
Common questions
Swingers club dress codes, answered plainly.
Is there a dress code at swingers clubs?
Usually, yes, and most of the 16 clubs in this guide publish one. Many ask guests to dress up for a night out and rule out sportswear, beachwear and flip-flops. A few say casual is acceptable. Themed nights can change the rule, so read the club’s own page for your date.
Can I wear jeans to a swingers club?
Often, if they are clean and in good repair. The Green Door says “Jeans and tennis shoes allowed”, and Colette and Power Exchange accept nice jeans for men. Scarlet Ranch rules out old jeans, and Trapeze lists “NO RIPPED JEANS” for men. Check the club’s page first.
What should a single man wear to a swingers club?
Check the club’s single-men rule, because several are stricter. Colette, Power Exchange and The Green Door each publish one: a collared shirt, slacks or nice jeans and proper shoes at the first two, and no open-toed shoes, athletic wear or sleeveless shirts at the Green Door.
What do women wear to a swingers club?
It depends on the club. Club Joi says “Ladies don't really have a dress code”, Power Exchange accepts anything from a semi-formal dress to a sexy outfit, and Trapeze asks for sexy club wear. CheckMate NYC requires high heels. Read the venue’s page before you choose shoes.
Do I have to dress in the theme?
Usually it is encouraged, not required. Ohana’s encourages everyone to dress according to theme, and Scarlet Ranch says most themes are optional, though a few require formal attire. Tabu allows a theme costume in place of its collared-shirt rule. The event page is the authority.
Do swingers club dress codes change?
Yes. Clubs revise their rules, and themed nights override the usual code. This guide records what each club’s page said on 23 October 2026. Treat it as a map of what to look for, then check the club’s current page and the event listing for your night before you dress.
Editorial methodology
Where the claims on this page come from.
Every rule attributed to a named club on this page is quoted or restated from that club’s own website, opened on 23 October 2026; the general guidance is labelled as general. FAQ answers name their sources in plain words instead of carrying URLs. Dress codes, themes and entry rules change: confirm the current terms on the club’s own site before you go.
Sources checked October 2026
Colette Clubs
Dress code — Colette New Orleans
The dress-code section of the New Orleans page: the upscale restaurant or nightclub standard, the ladies, gentlemen and single-men lists, the street-worthy arrival rule and the theme-night line.
Power Exchange
Dress code — Power Exchange
Its dress-code page: the upscale restaurant or nightclub standard, welcome styles, the single-men requirement and the list of prohibited items.
Trapeze
Dress code — Trapeze
Its dress-code page: the do and don't lists for women and men, and the high-heel rule for the back room area.
Trapeze
Trapeze Fort Lauderdale
The Fort Lauderdale page: the dress-to-impress line, the statement that the code is strictly enforced, and the flip-flops and lockers note.
Scarlet Ranch
FAQ — Scarlet Ranch
Its FAQ answer on dress: the dress-to-impress line, the not-allowed list, the formal themes and the right to refuse admittance.
The Green Door
FAQ — The Green Door
Its FAQ answer on dress: the dress-to-impress code, jeans and tennis shoes allowed, and the extra list for single men.
Club Joi
What to expect — Club Joi
The dress-code section of its what-to-expect page, for men and for women, and its lockers note.
CheckMate NYC
Dress code — CheckMate NYC
Its dress-code page: the glamorous standard, the not-permitted list, the men's and women's requirements and the management-discretion line.
Caligula New York
FAQ — Caligula New York
Its FAQ answer on dress: the clean, neat and well-groomed standard, the not-permitted items and the themed-event carve-out.
Hidden Agenda
Dress code — Hidden Agenda
Its dress-code page: the upscale speakeasy standard, guidance for men and for women, and the prohibited list.
Tabu
Dress code — Tabu
Its dress-code page: the collared-shirt rule, the winter sweater and summer shorts notes, and the theme exception.
The Korral
Dress Code section — The Korral
The Dress Code section of its home page: the standard for men and women, the prohibited items, the theme exception, the summer shorts note and the change-of-clothes note.
Club Sapphire
Club Attire — Club Sapphire
The Club Attire section of its home page: the night-on-the-town standard and its short not-allowed list.
Club Sinz
FAQ — Club Sinz
Its FAQ answer on dress, which says it does not impose a code and then describes what guests usually wear.
Club Eden
FAQ — Club Eden
The operator's FAQ answer on dress, which covers its Dallas–Fort Worth and Oklahoma City clubs.
Ohana's Social Club
Dress Code section — Ohana's Social Club
The Dress Code section of its home page: what is acceptable, what is not permitted, themes and outfit changes.
Swinging Atlanta
Rules and etiquette — Swinging Atlanta
The dress-code line of its rules page, which says it does not enforce a particular code.
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