How do I vet a couple before meeting them?

01 · Before you respond

• Both partners have completed their own government-ID and biometric check — a couple account isn't approved on JoinTheSwing until both have passed.
• The profile reads like it was written together, not by one partner describing the other.
• Photos plausibly show both partners, and details are consistent across the profile.

02 · In the conversation

• Ask a question that specifically invites the other partner's own words — see whether the answer sounds like it's actually theirs.
• Ask directly: what are each of you individually looking for?
• Ask directly: what happens if only one of you connects with me?
• Ask directly: how do you two make decisions together?
• Notice whether one partner consistently answers for both, or defers every decision to the other.

03 · Reading the signals

• Genuine enthusiasm reads differently than one partner going along with the other's plan — trust that difference.
• Vague or evasive answers to the direct questions above are worth taking seriously as a reason to slow down.
• A couple genuinely aligned on this will not be offended by being asked whether it's something they both actually want.

04 · Before you meet

• Take your time — a couple worth connecting with will not rush you or treat a slower pace as a red flag.
• Confirm the plan through the couple's official profile or platform messaging, not a channel that skips verification.
• Tell a friend where you're going, who you're meeting, and when you'll check in.
• Arrange your own transport and consider meeting in public first.