How does ID verification work on lifestyle sites?

The standard for identity verification in the lifestyle community has historically been very low. An email address confirms nothing about who is actually behind a profile. This creates an environment where single men pose as couples, catfish profiles persist for years, and there is no accountability when someone behaves badly.

ID + selfie verification closes this gap. The member submits a government-issued ID (passport or driver's licence) and a selfie photo. Our team reviews both to confirm the person matches the document. Zero-retention means the photos are discarded after the review passes.

Zero-retention means the source images — the ID and the selfie — are used for the team review and then deleted. They are not stored in a database, not retained by the platform, and not transferable. What remains is a verified badge attached to the member's profile.

For event hosts and other members, the verified badge signals that a real government identity sits behind the profile. Hosts can build verified-only guest lists. Other members can filter their discovery to verified members only. The trust infrastructure is architectural — it is built into every feature rather than bolted on.

If you want to understand the full verification process before you start, the Member Trust and Verification guide walks through each step, explains what happens after verification, and describes what unlocks once you have a verified badge.